Traditional wedding showers have outdated, stale rules that don’t really apply to modern showers. But with all the changes, how can one be certain their wedding shower etiquette is up to speed? This series of articles will outline the essentials of proper wedding shower etiquette for the:

Topic 1: INVITATIONS & GUESTLIST

Host/Hostess(es):

Typically, it is the maid or matron of honor’s responsibility to throw the wedding shower. However, sometimes it is hosted by another member of the wedding party. If you are the maid/matron of honor and no one else is already planning on throwing a shower, you probably need to step up!

If you are having a bridal shower for females only, it is typical to invite the bridesmaids, the bride’s close girlfriends, and any female relatives that are close to the bride and/or groom. If you are having a couple’s shower, you should invite the entire wedding party, close friends and family. (Even those who probably will not be able to attend should get an invitation.) Most of the time, children are not invited to the shower but can be. If it is a concern, address it on the invitation by letting guests know whether or not children are welcome.

On your invitations, be sure to list the following information:

• Bride’s (and Groom’s if it is a couple’s shower) Full Name(s)
• Date of the shower
• Time of the shower
• Location of the shower (Include directions if it is hard to find.)
• RSVP information (name, phone number, and date to RSVP by)

Optional information:

• If it is a surprise shower, be sure to say so on the invitations. You wouldn’t want a guest to spoil the surprise!
• Registry information
• Host’s or Hostess’s Name(s)

Invitations should be sent out at least 4 weeks before the shower, and the RSVP date should be between 1-2 weeks before the shower.

Guests:

If you have been invited to a wedding shower, make sure that you RSVP by the date on the invitations whether or not you are going but ESPECIALLY if you are going. The host/hostess will only plan for enough favors, food, etc. for those who say they will attend.

If this is a surprise shower, remember to keep it a secret, even if you aren’t going!

Bride and/or Groom:

When it comes to planning the wedding shower, the bride and groom are pretty much responsibility-free. The only thing they need to help with is the guestlist. Make sure your host/hostess knows who you want invited (and maybe more importantly who you DON’T want invited)! You will also need to provide the contact information for those you want to invite.

If we left something out or if you have more questions about wedding shower etiquette for invitations and guestlist, ASK OUR ULTIMATE BRIDE!

Wedding etiquette has changed so much over the years that we often receive questions about proper manners for a modern wedding. A lot of these questions are on the subject of wedding registries. Do you have questions about registering for your wedding? Well, you came to the right place!

Why should I have a wedding registry? Some people think it’s “rude” to have a wedding registry. But it is absolutely not. A wedding registry allows people that are already planning on buying you a gift to see what you need. It also limits the number of duplicate gifts received. Do you really want four can openers and six toasters??

When should I register? We suggest registering about 6 months before your wedding date. The latest we suggest completing your registry is 3 months before your big day.

Where should I register? Choose between one and three stores that have wedding registries and that are accessible to your guests.

What should I register for? Register for items you need for your home. Make sure you register for items that vary in price. The amount of items you should register for will depend on the number of guests invited to your wedding. You do not want to register for too many items because you might end up not getting the things you really want.

How do I let people know where I am registered? It is considered improper etiquette to have your registry on your invitations… but there are other ways to let people know where you are registered. Have the hosts to any wedding showers you are having put your registry information on the shower invitations. Let your family know where you are registered so they can pass on the information if someone asks about getting you a gift. The best way to let people know about your registry is to have a wedding website that links to the registry. Then, you can print the URL on your invitations!

Any other wedding registry questions? Ask us now!